We all know the line in marriage vows, “till death do us part”; but let’s face it, marriages aren’t lasting until death. One or both spouses are wanting out and it’s getting easier to do. When problems arise, one spouse, if not both, tend to want to run from the marriage instead of working through the issues. I’m not making light of anyone’s situation, but there’s nothing you can’t work through if both parties or even one of you are willing to work on the situation.
So, what should you do if your spouse wants out of the marriage but you want to work on your marriage? Here are a few steps I would suggest you take:
Give your marriage to God – this is something we should all do when we get married. God should be the center of your marriage. When you give your marriage to God, your focus then becomes on doing God’s will concerning your stand for your marriage.
2. Pray – continue to pray for your marriage, your spouse, yourself and your children. Your prayer should not focus on God changing your spouse but God changing you both for the better. Pray that God will keep you through this journey.
3. Continue to do what God has told you to do as a husband/wife – if God tells you to do a kind act towards your spouse, you do it. Don’t stop doing your role as a spouse. 1 Peter 3:1 says, “Wives. In the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives.” I also think this can be applied to husbands as well.
4. Believe, Receive, Expect – you must believe God will heal and restore your marriage; you must receive what God has told you He would do; you must expect Him to do it! We know God’s word will not return to Him void, it will accomplish what He wants. (Isaiah 55:11)
One thing you must remember, this journey will not be easy. When you decide to stand for your marriage, there will be days when you want to give up; there will be days when you feel the stand is not worth it; there will be days when the pain of it all will seem unbearable but on these days, remember who you have fighting for you, God. He’s already there and He already knows the outcome. Hold on to His word and everything He tells you concerning your marriage, your spouse, you and your family. Don’t give up on God, trust Him!
Be blessed…love y’all for real!