This time of the year often makes us reflect on our lives and makes us realize how blessed we truly are. There are small things as well as some big things we often overlook and never give our gratitude for. It’s always easy to focus on what we don’t have instead of appreciating what we have.
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 tells us to “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus”. Often in our lives it’s hard to rejoice let alone give thanks when circumstances arise that are not favorable. When problems arise, we tend to focus on the negative immediately instead of going to God in prayer to have Him show us how to get through this and what lesson we need to learn. In our marriages, when circumstances like these arise, we tend to get upset with our spouse and shut down. Instead of shutting down, we need to approach the situation with an open heart and mind for growth; individually and as a couple. If we took the time to be thankful for our spouse/marriage, the negative wouldn’t seem as big. Many of us don’t know how to be thankful or why we should be thankful for our spouse/marriage.
How & Why to be Thankful:
1. Stop focusing on the “bad” and focus on what is good in your marriage/spouse. Even though in your mind you may think the worse of the situation; stop and look for the good and watch the situation change.
2. Remember why you married your spouse. There was something about your spouse that made you fall in love and want to spend the rest of your life with them; think on those reasons and let them shape your thoughts concerning your marriage/spouse.
3. God gave you your spouse to love and cherish; when you don’t love, and cherish your spouse, you aren’t loving and cherishing God.
When we have a thankful heart, we are opened to receive blessings from God. Having a thankful heart deepens your relationship with God. It lets God know that no matter what the situation may look like, you will trust Him and be thankful for the opportunity to be a testimony for Him. So even if your marriage isn’t looking like what you desire, keep giving God thanks through it all and watch Him (God) change you, your spouse and your marriage for His glory.
Be blessed…love y’all for real!