Unity: “the state of being united or joined as a whole; the number one”. When a man and woman are joined together in marriage (vows/commitment), they become one. The bible says in Genesis 2:24 “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” One flesh…so what does that mean? Does that mean we have to think alike, dress alike, do everything alike? No. It means that you come together as one when making decisions in life. The way you discipline your children; how you handle your finances; your faith walk.
Many times people view unity as something “bad”. As to say that being as one means you loose a part of you. Not so, you gain instead of losing. You have someone you can go to and help you make major decisions. It doesn’t mean you will lose your freedom (although when you get married there are some things you shouldn’t do anymore but that’s another topic). You have someone who has your back; cheering you own and fighting for you.
When you are united to someone, you go to war together against your enemies. You don’t fight each other. You come together and create your battle plan(s) against the enemy and you fight together and win. Even if you do not agree with your spouse, you form that united front to block the plans of your enemy (unless your spouse is going against God then you let Him handle your spouse). Your united front should be so strong that no one can break through.
So how do you form a united front? First you and you spouse need to seek God concerning His plan for your marriage. Second, you make the choice that no matter what, we have each other’s back. Third, never leave your spouse out on any decision making. Even if you feel your spouse doesn’t understand, you never make decisions with someone else (not even a parent). When you make decisions and leave your spouse out, you make them feel as if they are not an important member of the team. Or when you talk bad about your spouse to others or go against them on a major decision, that weakens front and brings about discord to the union.
Thoughts to think on: is there unity in your marriage? Or is there a division? If there is division remember “Now I beseech you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you; but that ye be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment.” 1 Corinthians 1:10.
Be blessed…love y’all for real!